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    August 30

    也许没有自我才能成就自我

     
    这一次, 是真的真的很无助,
    这一次, 是真的真的到了江郎才尽的时候,
    想哭,但却哭不出来...
    明知不应该, 却还在浪费时间,
    每天泡在游戏上, 却害怕翻开文献...
    也许只有将自己的心彻底暴晒,
    任凭风吹雨打, 才能成就一个完完全全的我...
    那么, 就让暴风雨来得更猛烈些吧...
    也许, 只有这样, 才能越挫越勇...
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
    August 27

    好想好想

     
    好想有个上帝来帮帮我的论文,
    感觉很无助...
     
     
     
    August 26

    心痛

     
    不知是这两天太累了, 还是怎么回事,
    胸口疼痛...
    希望心脏不会有什么毛病才好...
    等论文结束, 进一步的健身计划该提上日程了...
     
    荨麻疹似乎快好了,
    维C隔天才吃半片,已经不痒了,
    只是红色的划痕不知道什么时候才能消失...
    吃完手中的维C, 打算不继续吃了,
    还是多吃点水果和蔬菜吧, 毕竟化学合成的东西吃多了不好...
     
    不上班的日子只剩下6天了,
    如果不是生病, 不是感情出了问题, 这半年过得还是可以的...
    再次进入职场, 不知道什么时候会结束...
    很多时候不想上班, 可是, 不上班, 我又能干什么?
    心目中的理想生活是不可能实现的, 实验了两次还是成功不了,
    再也没有屡败屡战的动力了...
    半开玩笑说, 只要YEL要我, 就一直干下去...
    只是...有那么多控制不了的原因...我也不知道会干多久...
    心里的盘算是半年吧, 一切待半年后再作打算...
    似乎, 总是被命运安排在给人家解决问题的位置上,这次又是这样...
    真应了算命的那句话, 命太硬, 注定就是走在刀尖上, 给人家当枪使...
    也许,被需要是有价值的吧, 但愿...
    在YEL工作压力蛮大的, 已经离开半年了,
    再去迎接挑战, 得调整好心态才行...
     
    加油!红玫瑰
     
     
     
     
    August 24

    一点感想

     
    越来越不明白现代人的思想了,
    是自己在倒退? 还是时代进步太快?
    刚开始使用网络,是10年前的事了,那时热衷于聊天,交友...
    天真,真诚地认识每一个网友,
    确实,交到的也都是真诚的朋友,大家付出的都是真心真意...
    10年后,再次来到交友网站,
    却发现,这里的天空不一样...
    除了一些来展示自己独特个性的人外,多数都是因为寂寞, 来这里寻开心, 或寻一夜情, 找性伴侣什么的...
    有时候真不敢相信自己的眼睛和耳朵,
    是自己太较真,适应不了社会的变化吗? 还是社会真的变化得太快、人们的压力太大?
    现在的网络上,还能交到真心朋友吗?
    就算是自己付出真心,人家会相信吗?...
    十年后的自己, 仍然还是那个天真的人...
    可是,十年后的网络生活已不能再回到从前...
     
    论文到了数据收集的阶段,
    原本打定的几个重要数据来源地, 却意外发现愿意参与的人不多...
    是啊, 大家都忙, 已没有额外的心力来参加这类活动了...
     
    这个社会的物质生活丰富了, 但人们的精神却很空虚,
    想想有时候觉得蛮悲哀的...
    期待能有一些改变...
    ------------------------------------------------
    082609: 这样的网络生活已经成为了人们的一种生活方式?
     
     
     
    August 23

    与小朋友一起度过的暑假

     

    时间过得飞快,一眨眼暑假就要过去了,朋友10岁的女儿也要回老家了。在这两个月的日子里的一点一滴就像是发生在昨天。

     

    没来之前,经常听到她妈说起关于她的一些趣事。第一次见到这位小美女,她有点缅婰,叫她不应声。头发很厚,正如朋友所说没怎么打理,几乎把脸给全遮住了。一顿饭吃下来,渐渐大家都熟了。然后。。。

     

    小家伙好客,常常主动请我过去。几乎每天都会收到短信:“阿姨,过来吃饭”。如果反应迟了一点,紧接着就会出现:“阿姨,你快点来嘛。”

     

    小朋友吃饭图完成任务,偏食,不爱吃肉,喜欢吃鱼虾、黄瓜之类的。每次要规定她吃多少量,为这个,大家还要讨价还价一番。边吃饭边聊天,每次我们吃完后,都看着她。她会说:“别这样盯着我看嘛,我会不好意思呢。“我会用蹩脚的四川话说:“因为我们没见过美女吃饭撒,所以喜欢看嘛”。一说到这里,总笑。哈哈哈哈。因为她在家总喜欢这样逗家里的小孩。

     

    饭后,一般搞一些小节目娱乐一下。小朋友总喜欢要求说我们小时候的事。说她这么大时,我们在干什么。我们就会说,那时的生活多么艰苦,没有饭吃,还要干活什么的。她会说:“你们小时候好可怜哦。” 她妈就教育说:“所以,你身在福中要知福啊。”看起来小姑娘蛮喜欢自己的家乡话,来这里,一直不改口讲普通话。每次饭后,免不了要被小美女央求我讲家乡话,然后以她教我四川话作为交换。然后大家一边模仿一边大笑。要么,就是玩脑筋急转弯。玩一圈下来,才发现,小孩的脑子比大人更灵光。呵呵。问题的答案其实很简单,很多时候,是因为我们成人的想法太复杂。

     

    小姑娘的爱好比较偏,喜欢吃零食,玩游戏,看电视。自她来了后,家里的遥控器都由她掌管,每天的节目就是喜洋洋与灰太狼。有时候,朋友会故意拔掉电视机线,她会好郁闷地说:“电视又没有台了。”然后,开始想别的办法玩乐。

     

    我们有一起外出游玩过。那一次去游泳,路上塞车,找车位,换地方花了很长时间,到南澳那边已经是晚上了。不过,玩乐的兴致仍然很高。这是她第一次游戏,也是我第一次在海边游戏。小孩的眼里没有恐惧两个字,一来就直冲。而胆小的我,下去试了下水后,就上来了,控制不了水,害怕。直到后来朋友带着我和小姑娘,三个人,两个游戏圈,由朋友拉着,玩了近两小时。大家都挺开心的。另一次,由于要读文献,我没参加。母女俩去了欢乐谷。回来看了他们拍的照片,听她兴致勃勃地讲着。这也许是她第一次去这么大的游乐场玩,也许那里确实那么好玩吧。以致于后来每次问她,在深圳所经历过的最难忘的事是什么,总说是欢乐谷的游玩,以后还要去欢乐谷。而她在那里学到的,竞然是胆皮舞,再加拍几下PP。还常常要扭给我们看。一想到这儿,就忍不住想笑。在孩子的眼里,这没有什么,就是满足一下她的表演欲,而在成人的眼里,却感觉有点色。

     

    小东西语言表达能力还可以,但作文就麻麻地,让她妈妈一直很操心。看过她在这里写的好几篇作文,有点记流水帐的味道。然后,妈妈总是苦口婆心地讲写作要领,真是有点恨铁不成钢。其实大家的小时候都差不多吧,我小时也不懂写作业,直到步入社会后,才慢慢领悟。

     

    朋友要上班,多数时候把她一个人放在家里,电视又没得看,又没得玩,怎么可能乖乖做作业。可想而知,小朋友会多郁闷。所以,有时候她会跑到我家玩。我的生活蛮枯燥的,每天不是看英语就是读文献,或者是开着外汇图表窗口看行情。但每一样都要用电脑。小姑娘来了,自然要让她玩一下。我会问她:“看电视,玩手机游戏,电脑游戏,吃东西,你想做哪样?”这时她会“毫不客气”地选择玩电脑游戏。如果我的情况不允许,我们就会交换着。但小姑娘比较听话,未经允许,不会动任何东西。

     

    有时候,我会开玩笑地问她:“如果你中了500万,会怎么办?”她会很认真地说:“我要想一下,嗯,如果我中了500万,先帮妈妈把银行的贷款还清了,然后买两套房子,四川一套,深圳一套。再买两台笔记本电脑,我一台,妈妈一台。这样我可以常常玩游戏了。”她妈会说:“不要做这种不切实际的梦。”

     

    朋友有时候因为家里的事不开心,聊天的时候,一眼就能看出有心事。我们会聊聊。小姑娘就会在旁边问:“你们在聊啥子?”这时,感觉小孩真的好小,不懂成人的世界,只会关心自己那几个小小的爱好。我常问:“你会有心事吗?”她总回答说没有。是啊,小孩会有什么心事呢?小朋友会明白什么是心事吗?

     

        亲爱的liao同学,这就算是我交的作文吧,虽然记流水帐的程度与你有得一拼,但阿姨真的会很怀念我们曾一起度过的美好时光。祝你健康快乐地成长。

     

     

     

    August 19

    最后的冲刺

     

    上课之初, 对心理学非常向往...

    整个上课的过程中, 相当的枯燥, 觉得学的离自己当初期望的距离很远...

    现在, 课程结束了, 却感觉越来越喜欢这个学科了...

    具体的说不上来, 但有一个明显的特点,

    那就是看问题, 看待周围的世界, 会很自然倾向于从心理学的角度去观察...

    这就是这三年来最大的收获!

     

    时间就这样一天天过去了,

    希望这次的论文不要黄了, 否则, 我没办法原谅自己!

    加油! 红玫瑰

     

    [转] what is a decision

     
    灯泡
     
    A decision is a choice make from among alternative courses of action that are available. The purpose of making a decision is to establish and achieve organizational goals and objectives. The reason for making a decision is that a problem exists, goals or objectives are wrong, or something is standing in the way of accomplishing them.
     
    Thus the decision-making process is fundamental to management. Almost everything a manager does involves decisions, indeed, some suggest that the management process is decision making. Although managers cannot predict the future, many of their decisions require that they consider prossible future events. Often managers must make a best guess at what the future will be and try to leave as little as possible to chance, but since uncertainty is always there, risk accompanies decisions. Sometimes the consequences of a poor decision are slight; at other times they are serious.
     
    Choice is the opportunity to select among alternatives. If there is no choice, there is no decision to be made. Decision making is the process of choosing, and many decisions have a broad range of choice. For example, a student may be able to choose among a number of different courses in order to implement the decision to obtain a college degree. For managers, every decision has constraints based on policies, procedures, laws, precedents, and the like. These constraints exist at all levels of the organization.
     
    Alternatives are the possible courses of action from which choices can be made. if there are no alternatives are seen, often it meas that a thorough job of examining the problems has not been done. For example, managers sometimes treat problems is an either/or fashion; this is their way of simplifying complex problems. But the tendency to simplify blinds them to other alternatives.
     
    At the managerial level, decision making includes limiting alternatives as well as identifying them. and the range is from highly limited to practically unlimited.
     
    Decision makers must have some way of determining which of several alternatives is best ---- that is , which contributes the most to achievement of organizational goals. An organizational goal is an end or a state of affairs the organization seeks to reach. Because individuals (and organizations) frequently have different ideas about how to attain the goals, the best choice may depend on who makes the decision. Frequently, departments or units within an organization make decisions that are good for them individually but that are less than optimal for the larger organization. Called suboptimization, this is a trade-off that increases tha advantages to one unit or function but decreases the advantages to another unit or function. For example, the marketing manager may argue effectively for an increased advertising budget. In the larger scheme of things, however, increased funding for research to improve the products might be more beneficial to organization.
     
    These trade-offs occur because there are many objectives that organizations wihc to attain simultaneously. Some of these objectives are more important than others, but the order and degree of importance often vary from person to person and from department to department. Different managers define the same problem in different terms. When presented with a common case, sales managers tend to see sales problems, production managers see production problems, and so on.
     
    The ordering and importance of multiple objectives is also based, in part, on the values of the decision maker. Such values are personal; they are hard to understand, even by the individual, because they are so dynamic and complex. In many business situations different people's values about acceptable degrees of risk and profitability cause disagreement about the correctness of decisions.
     
    People often assume that a decision is an isolated phenomenon. But from a systems point of view, problems have multiple causes, and decisions have intended and unintended consequences. An organization is an ongoing entity, and a decision made today have consequences far into the future. Thus the skilled manager looks toward the future consequences of current decisions.
     
     
     
     
    August 14

    无言...

     
    彩虹
     
    即将告别不上班的日子,
    ----用工作来打发日子,
    是内心最真实的想法...
     
    好好做事, 好好做人,
    这将是接下来的生活和工作指引!
     
     
     
     
    August 11

    纯真...

     
    红玫瑰
     
    喜欢孩时的纯真年代,
    无忧无虑,
    即使有烦恼,也只是一时的...
    孩子说, 我把快乐丢失在某个角落了,
    要花点时间才能把它找回来...
    相信找回快乐的时间不用花费太长...
     
    成年后,
    心里积累太多的心事,
    渐渐地,
    心事充满了整个思绪, 而快乐渐渐地消失...
    我想把心事一件一件地减少, 让快乐再度充满生活...
    加油吧, 欲望少了, 快乐自然就多了!
     
     
    August 05

    [转] A letter from Mom

     
    I gave you life, but cannot live it for you.
    I can give you directions, but I cannot be there to lead you.
    I can take you to church, but I cannot make you believe.
    I can buy you beautiful clothes, but I cannot make you beautiful inside.
    I can give you love, but I cannot force it upon you. 
     
    I can teach you to share, but I cannot make you unselfish.
    I can teach you respect, but I cannot force you to show honor.
    I can advise you about friends, but I cannot choose them for you.
    I can tell you about alcohol & drugs, but I cannot say "no" for you.

     
    I can tell you about lofty goals, but I cannot achieve them for you.
    I can teach you about kindness, but I cannot force you to be gracious.
    I can pray for you, but I cannot make you walk with God.
    I can tell you how to live, but I cannot give you eternal life.
    I can love you with unconditonal love all my life... and I will.
     
     
     

    我相信...

     
    种豆得豆, 种瓜得瓜...
    种下一颗仁慈快乐的心,
    就会收获许多快乐!